Why We Click

Why do some people instantly draw you in, while others give you the ick?<BR>In Why We Click, Kate Murphy, author of the international bestseller You're Not Listening, explores the emerging science and powerful impact of interpersonal synchrony, the most consequential social dynamic most people have never heard of.<BR><BR>What is interpersonal synchrony?<BR>The magical yet now scientifically documented tendency of human beings to fall into rhythm and find resonance with one another. Not only do we subconsciously mirror one another's movements and facial expressions, we also sync up our brain activity, heart rates, and hormonal levels. This stunning ability is the basis of human empathy, attachment, and bonding. The more in sync you are with another person, the more connected you tend to feel. <BR><BR>Why We Click will help you:<BR>- Improve and hone your syncing ability for more satisfying (and less draining) social interactions<BR>- Design spaces, plan activities, and develop mindsets conducive to forging and maintaining mutually satisfying relationships<BR>- Get better at reading other people and reading the room<BR>- Resist getting hijacked by other people's negative energy <BR>- Become more in tune with nature and even your pets<BR>- Have more flow experiences, whether they're with other people or within yourself<BR><BR>The bottom line?<BR>From the bedroom to the boardroom, Murphy shows how our instinct to sync drives much of our social behavior. It determines who ends up in our personal and professional networks as well as the depth and duration of our relationships. Interpersonal synchrony is our superpower, but it can also be our kryptonite if we fail to understand its influence on us, both as individuals and as a society.

When was the last time you listened to someone, or someone really listened to you?<BR><BR>"If you're like most people, you don't listen as often or as well as you'd like. There's no one better qualified than a talented journalist to introduce you to the right mindset and skillset-and this book does it with science and humor." <BR>-Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Originals and Give and Take<BR><BR>**Hand picked by Malcolm Gladwell, Adam Grant, Susan Cain, and Daniel Pink for Next Big Ideas Club**<BR><BR>"An essential book for our times."<BR>-Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone<BR><BR>At work, we're taught to lead the conversation.<BR>On social media, we shape our personal narratives.<BR>At parties, we talk over one another. So do our politicians.<BR>We're not listening.<BR>And no one is listening to us.<BR><BR>Despite living in a world where technology allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect, it seems no one is really listening or even knows how. And it's making us lonelier, more isolated, and less tolerant than ever before. A listener by trade, New York Times contributor Kate Murphy wanted to know how we got here.<BR><BR>In this always illuminating and often humorous deep dive, Murphy explains why we're not listening, what it's doing to us, and how we can reverse the trend. She makes accessible the psychology, neuroscience, and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of the best listeners out there (including a CIA agent, focus group moderator, bartender, radio producer, and top furniture salesman). Equal parts cultural observation, scientific exploration, and rousing call to action that's full of practical advice, You're Not Listening is to listening what Susan Cain's Quiet was to introversion. It's time to stop talking and start listening.

Alles eine Frage der ChemieWir lernen jemanden kennen und es macht sofort 'Klick'. Oder geraten ohne ersichtlichen Grund mit einem Kollegen aneinander. Hunderte klatschen plötzlich im Gleichtakt, beim Gehen fallen zwei Menschen in denselben Rhythmus. Das alles liegt am Phänomen des zwischenmenschlichen Synchronisierens. Das geht so weit, dass sich auch unsere Herzfrequenz und unsere neuronale und hormonelle Aktivität aufeinander abstimmen. Kate Murphy erläutert anhand von vielen Beispielen und aktuellen Forschungsergebnissen, wie Synchronie entsteht und wie unser Verhalten andere beeinflusst. Sie beleuchtet evolutionäre wie neurobiologische Zusammenhänge und bietet zugleich einen praktischen Leitfaden, wie wir diese Fähigkeit gezielt nutzen können.

Why do some people instantly draw you in, while others give you the ick?<BR>In Why We Click, Kate Murphy, author of the international bestseller You're Not Listening, explores the emerging science and powerful impact of interpersonal synchrony, the most consequential social dynamic most people have never heard of.<BR><BR>What is interpersonal synchrony?<BR>The magical yet now scientifically documented tendency of human beings to fall into rhythm and find resonance with one another. Not only do we subconsciously mirror one another's movements and facial expressions, we also sync up our brain activity, heart rates, and hormonal levels. This stunning ability is the basis of human empathy, attachment, and bonding. The more in sync you are with another person, the more connected you tend to feel. <BR><BR>Why We Click will help you:<BR>- Improve and hone your syncing ability for more satisfying (and less draining) social interactions<BR>- Design spaces, plan activities, and develop mindsets conducive to forging and maintaining mutually satisfying relationships<BR>- Get better at reading other people and reading the room<BR>- Resist getting hijacked by other people's negative energy <BR>- Become more in tune with nature and even your pets<BR>- Have more flow experiences, whether they're with other people or within yourself<BR><BR>The bottom line?<BR>From the bedroom to the boardroom, Murphy shows how our instinct to sync drives much of our social behavior. It determines who ends up in our personal and professional networks as well as the depth and duration of our relationships. Interpersonal synchrony is our superpower, but it can also be our kryptonite if we fail to understand its influence on us, both as individuals and as a society.

'Ich war nur kurz abgelenkt.' Viele Menschen halten sich für gute und empathische Zuhörer. Das ist ein Trugschluss - das Gegenteil ist der Fall. Wir sind viel zu sehr mit uns selbst beschäftigt, planen bereits im Voraus die nächsten Argumente, meinen, im Vorfeld zu wissen, was der Andere sagen will. Wir sind abgelenkt durch ständige Erreichbarkeit auf allen Kanälen, die unterschiedlich bedient werden wollen, durch Multitasking und den beschleunigten Puls der ganzen Gesellschaft. Die vermeintlich simple und passive Tätigkeit des Zuhörens haben wir verlernt. Was das für uns, unsere Familie und unser Miteinander bedeutet und wie wir wieder zurück in den beidseitigen Dialog finden, erläutert die bekannte Wissenschaftsredakteurin Kate Murphy auf anschauliche Weise.