Die unbewusste Sprache der Liebe

'I want to change, but not if it means changing,' a patient once said to me in complete innocence<BR><BR> What do we do when we find ourselves trapped by our own thoughts or behaviour? Drawing on his twenty-five years' experience as a psychoanalyst, Stephen Grosz ushers the reader through the door of his consulting room and into the minds of his patients. In these beautifully told cases we find compulsive liars, deceived spouses, violent children and delusional adults but we also find ourselves and in doing so, understand a little more about what it is to be human.<BR><BR> Selected from The Examined Life.<BR><BR> VINTAGE MINIS: GREAT MINDS. BIG IDEAS. LITTLE BOOKS.<BR><BR> A series of short books by the world's greatest writers on the experiences that make us human<BR><BR>Discover the Vintage Minis 'Head Space' series:<BR><BR> Recovery by Helen Macdonald<BR> Family by Mark Haddon

'A work of genius... It would not be humanly possible for me to recommend his work more highly' India Knight<BR>'Left me feeling wiser and more open to life' Oliver Burkeman<BR><BR>Luminous and necessary stories from the psychoanalyst's consulting room; on desire, heartbreak and learning how to love.<BR><BR>When it comes to love why do we find things so difficult? Drawing on over forty years of candid and surprising conversations with his patients, Stephen Grosz asks, what gets in the way of our falling in love? And what must we do to stay there?<BR><BR>In the intimate space of the consulting room, we meet the woman who can't post her wedding invitations but then, decades later, can't decide whether to get divorced; the friendship group that explodes when an adulterous affair begins; and the man whose partner's death is almost too much to bear.<BR><BR>As an analyst, Grosz's unerring ability is to locate what ails the heartsick. As a writer, he elegantly shows how we can deploy the agonies of love as tools for understanding.<BR><BR>The labour of love is the work of a lifetime but in finally learning to see ourselves and our world clearly, we find we are truly ready to love one another.<BR><BR>*** A 'BEST BOOK OF 2025' IN THE TIMES AND IRISH TIMES***<BR><BR>'The poet laureate of human emotion' Elizabeth Day<BR>'This man could save your marriage' Sunday Times<BR>'Stephen Grosz ... is one of the best at writing about psychoanalysis' The Times<BR>'Powerful and compelling' Guardian<BR>'This is a beautiful book' Nigella Lawson

'The poet laureate of human emotion' ELIZABETH DAY'Left me feeling wiser and more open to life' OLIVER BURKEMAN'A work of genius' INDIA KNIGHTChange the way you think about love.When it comes to relationships, why do we find things so difficult? Drawing on more than forty years of candid and surprising conversations with his patients, psychoanalyst Stephen Grosz shows us how we can be better at love.In the intimate space of the consulting room, we meet the woman who can't post her wedding invitations but then, decades later, can't decide whether to get divorced; the ex-nun whose unconscious fear of pregnancy drove her into the convent; and the friendship group that explodes when an adulterous affair begins. Compelling, revealing and full of wisdom, Love's Labour shows us that only when we see ourselves and our world clearly are we truly ready to love one another.'Powerful and compelling' GUARDIAN'This is a beautiful book' NIGELLA LAWSON'This man could save your marriage' SUNDAY TIMES

**THE SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER**<BR><BR>This book is about learning to live.<BR><BR>Echoing Socrates' statement that the unexamined life not worth living, psychoanalyst Stephen Grosz draws on his twenty-five years of work and more than 50,000 hours of conversations to form a collection of beautifully rendered tales that illuminate the human experience.<BR><BR>These are stories about everyday lives: from a woman who finds herself daydreaming as she returns home from a business trip to a young man loses his wallet, to the more extreme examples: the patient who points an unloaded gun at a police officer and the compulsive liar who convinces his wife he's dying of cancer. The resulting journey will spark new ideas about who we are and why we do what we do.<BR><BR>'A captivating journey... These are universal themes, insights into an emotional world we inhabit, often with equal difficulty. A wonderful book' Sunday Times<BR><BR>'Stephen Grosz , an analyst with more than 40 years in practice, is one of the best at writing about [psychoanalysis]' The Times